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Other Peoples Drama

I have been in the program for 21 months, and I don't drink. In fact I don't even struggle with it any more. I have worked the program to the best of my ability, and I continue to spread the message. Life is in all very good these days for me!
Lately there has been a disruption to my balance though. It seems that there are people who are close to my heart that cause alot of drama. You know what I mean, they stick there nose in things they shouldn't. They get themselves all twisted up, and then come running to others to fix it. By thee end of it, I hear my name being brought into things that I have no part of. I'm finding it very disturbing to me, and I'm overly stressed about the situation. I know that the problem has to be mine that I'm disturbed. Any advise on the best way to handle something like this?

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Permalink Reply by evergreen78 on December 13, 2009 at 11:35am: We are powerless, of course, over what other people think, or say or do. So, some things my sponsor taught me: (1) As Moonpie said - pick your battles. My sponsor would ask herself, "Is this the mountain that I want to die on today?" (2) The very 1st thing my sponsor ever taught me, & the one I use the most: "Oh, well. . . NEXT!"

A third thing that my sponsor told me was that once I began to put God (whatever that means to you) FIRST, then other people's opinions would matter a lot less to me. You know what? She was right. :); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tommy on December 13, 2009 at 9:04pm: 4, 5, 6, 7, 8. Oh and pray they have all you would have once a day for the next 14 days. I KNOW, it sucks doesn't it?!

The best tip I ever got on how to handle someone who is always coming to or at you with drama is to listen for a bit and then ask, "Tell me how I can help YOU?" If they say, "Well just listen to me," say no, "what can I DO to help you?" Usually they are just stumped because they don't want help they want crisis. But occasionally if someone wants help - you can be of service.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Dawn L. on December 14, 2009 at 9:34pm: Welcome to the real world, lololol...
It isn't just us alkies and addicts that have drama and chaos... just pick up any newspaper and you can read about it!!!!
OMG.
I give a "hear, hear" to Tommy's take on it.
Just my 3 cents worth...
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Permalink Reply by Dave E on December 16, 2009 at 11:15pm: I don't know about you, but for me when ever other people's behavior gets on my nevers it is usually something in me that I have had or am still having problems with. I like for people to upset me, it give's me a chance to look a little closer at my self. Sometimes people don;t want help just want your pittie. Stay on your toe's and do what ever you have to do to stay sober, I have had to seperate myself from people I thought I could'nt live without. My your God be with you in your times of trouble.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by angela new leaf on December 30, 2009 at 2:22pm: this is soooooo where i am and what i have been looking for help with....

i too am just tryin to do the next rite thing and......poooooof someone is burstin my pink cloud........thankk you for reminding me what im doing......trying to stay sober.,,,,,me trying to stay sober ......helpin you if you ask......but if you dont ask...im not mind reader.......i too got very stressed and it manifested in the form of tears in a meeting for and hour and a half........what i found is.........i would rather be told the truth in a hash form than an opiniion in a phoney delivery......
thank you for having this discussion posted.....i am not alone........; ▶ Reply to This